Anonymous asked: i feel like all my friends suck. did you ever go through an awkward "growing out of everyone" stage?

Not really. I’ve gone through a few periods of “friends growing apart,” but never a “growing out of everyone” stage. 

Why do your friends suck? Is it because they’ve found other social groups to be a part of that don’t include you? Or is there a legitimate change in their behavior? Have they suddenly become alcoholics/drug addicts/married/in relationships/some other sort of lifestyle change? Because maybe it’s less that they “suck,” and more than you and them aren’t on the same wavelength anymore — I had the same situation arise a number of times, where friends of mine became coupled, got better jobs, and got married/had kids. It wasn’t that they suddenly “sucked,” but that I was still involved in a lifestyle (single, floating about) that they had moved on from.

I mean, if they are suddenly stealing your stuff and have changed to a completely different personality, then maybe yes, they “suck,” in that they are probably on meth and totally self destructive. If not, then perhaps you should re-assess the situation and not assume that things are as simple you “growing out of everyone.” Maybe you are dating someone/focusing on particular elements, and they aren’t? If so, that isn’t their fault — their lives aren’t following the same path yours is.

Post Notes

  1. mikerickson said: I’m in the “growing out of everyone” stage because no one else wants to move on with their lives; they all still in college or just think that they are. Some of them are shocked that I’m living in my own place that I’m paying for myself.
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